HOW TO DEAL WITH A NARCISSIST

Several clients over the years have confided to me that they are the subject of narcissistic abuse, and they don't know how to get out from under the narcissistic abuse and rage. My advice has been and continues to be: DON'T ENGAGE THE NARCISSIST. 

Narcissists feed off narcissist supply. Meaning they need constant attention, adoration, and drama to feel worthy. To gain this supply, they accuse their targets of gaslighting, lying, infidelity, abuse, bullying, and grandiosity, to name but a few, but in actual fact, what they are doing is telling on themselves. 

They accuse their victims of doing what they are doing. This is called narcissist projection. You won't win trying to convince a narcissist that what they say is untrue because they cannot hold themselves accountable and responsible for their behaviors. They don't have the self-awareness or cognitive ability to reflect and analyze their actions and behaviors and instead project their issues onto their victims. 

The best thing you can do when faced with a narcissist is:

• Recognize they are projecting their behaviors and actions onto you.
• Recognize your self-worth. You are a stronger and more powerful than a narcissist.
•  Realize you can't fix or reason with a narcissist. 
• Take your power back, disengage and ignore the narcissist and their flying monkeys (the narcissist's enablers that will support the narcissist no matter what). 

And finally, remember that you deserve a happy, narcissist, and drama-free life. 

These are a mere snippet of tips on dealing with a narcissist. If you would like more suggestions, let me know by leaving comments below. ​

Wishing you all love and light, Claire xx


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