I recently gave a keynote speech in London about the anxiety, panic attacks and depression I suffered from years ago. It’s a speech I often give, which generally results in attendees approaching me afterwards to share their own story with me. And, indeed on this occasion, I was approached thereafter.
One of the individuals who approached and spoke to me absolutely floored me with his comments. He said, “What you said has made me realise for the first time in my life that I am not worthless”. I guessed he was in his late forties, and what floored me and broke my heart was the realisation that he had spent his entire life feeling worthless.
I wanted to speak to him further; however, we were surrounded by people which prevented an intimate conversation. All we had time for was a 2-minute conversation whereby he showed me some notes he had taken during my speech, and I reiterated his importance and why he matters.
Perturbed by what he had said to me, later that evening when I returned home I updated my speech to include the following words, which I would like all of you to take on board and remember.
YOUR STORY MATTERS.
YOU ARE WORTHY.
YOU ARE DESERVING.
YOU ARE LOVED.
I BELIEVE IN YOU.
Now it may sound usual to say I believe in you when I don’t know you; however, I do genuinely believe in everyone. Everyone has a story and is a victim of something, yet we all have the potential to own our story and rise and write a new chapter in our lives. We are all worthy and deserving of a happy, fulfilling and meaningful life. Our past and our history do not need to define us. I have written a new story for myself, and I do not have any unique superpowers that you do not have. Your potential for change and growth is just as limitless as mine.
And so, I would like to remind you that YOU ARE WORTHY.
You matter because you are unique and bring value to the world, even if you don’t think so.
Not sure how you bring value to the world? Well, even a simple smile can change someone’s life. I believe one of the greatest gifts you can give someone your smile, and maybe your smile can change someone’s day or life. Perhaps your smile made someone feel seen and valued. Your words may have inspired someone when you didn’t think you were particularly inspiring. You never know how you positively impact someone.
Still not sure how you matter or why you are worthy?
Try this exercise.
Make a list of what you stand for and against - this will help you to understand why you matter.
As an example, to help you get started, refer to my list below:
What I stand for (my core values): Kindness. Compassion. Authenticity. Integrity.
What I am against: Prejudice of any kind. Unkindness. Oppression. Inauthenticity.
And that is why I matter.
Now it’s your turn. Make your list. I believe in you.
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