So, this week I am going to go off topic from my normal coaching newsletters and the reason being is that I read such a great book last week which left such a lasting impression on me, that I wanted to share the insights that I gained with you.
The book is called “A new earth” by Eckhart Tolle. It’s not the easiest book I have ever read, and I wasn’t able to “binge it”, but rather I read a chapter every few days or so in order to fully grasp and understand the concepts the author was presenting.
One of the points he states in the book is that most of human suffering is derived from people either living in the past or in the future and that rarely people live in the present moment. Moreover, he states that our ego is the cause of most of our own individual suffering as well as that of society as a whole.
I really pondered his book and I must admit that he has a point on both fronts.
How much of our time do we spend each day re-living past memories/mistakes/upsets?
How much of our day do we spend living in the future of to do lists/things we want to achieve/worries about the future?
Quite a bit I would say.
How much time do we spend actually truly living in the present moment, focusing only on the here and now?
Not much I suspect.
Regarding his point about the ego – that really resonated with me. With all the negative vitriol that we see online and in the news these days I can’t help but think that most of it comes down to ego – I’m right, they are wrong.
Maybe a good idea is that we all stay in our own lanes, and not assert our rightness on one another. And, perhaps we can all learn to listen to one another like we are wrong. For surely that opens the door to compassion, kindness and understanding?