I was watching the Graham Norton show the other night and one of the guests was none other than the phenomenal Cher. Graham asked her what, if any, life advice her 92-year old mother (Georgia Holt) had given her, and Cher responded by saying that her mother always said, “that if it doesn’t matter in 5 years it doesn’t matter”. Meaning, that what you face today may seem like a big deal, but in the great big scheme of things, if it doesn’t matter in 5 years, it doesn’t matter.
Although I think that this is advice is a bit oversimplified, I understand the principle and I can agree that it is pretty sound guidance. As a former professional worrier, who used to worry about all sorts of things that I had no control over (and most of which never occurred), I have spent far too much time stressing and agonizing over things which turned out to be inconsequential. In fact, if I could tell my younger self anything, it would be: Don’t worry so much; everything works out in the end.
Several years ago, whilst I was learning how to let go of my fears and worries, I was provided with a tip which I use to this day.
The tip is this: when a situation upsets or concerns you, ask yourself:
This time next year, will you remember this, and will it matter?
And, if it does matter, why will it matter?
This tip is a variation of the advice that Cher received from her mom; however, I personally feel it offers a bit more substance in the way of a ‘sanity check’ – an evaluation on whether your answer and claim is actually true or not.
Keep your worries in check by asking yourself if they are necessary and if they matter. And, don’t worry so much… everything will work out in the end (even if you can’t see it now).
I leave you with an apt quote from Mark Twain who fittingly said:“I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”
Until next week,