This question can have several answers, but I would like to share with you just one which I believe is a great first step towards personal empowerment:
Recognise that the past does not define you or your future.
Upbringing and experiences will no doubt have had an impact on who we are and who we have become, however the past does not need to impact the here and now, or your future.
Instead of dwelling on the past, we can consider asking ourselves the following questions:
By asking ourselves these questions we are likely to become cognizant of the fact that holding onto and clinging to unpleasant memories does not serve us. You may realise this already, but don’t yet know how to purge the sadness/bitterness/patterns that you may have clung to and adopted over the years, and I totally get it - it is easier said than done. You need to invest serious time in yourself to learn how to release the pain and change behavioural patterns that have been adopted over a lifetime.
What I have discovered in my own personal journey is that the easiest way to let feelings go is to FORGIVE. That doesn’t mean you have to forget, and put painful incidents in a nice tidy box in the back of your brain, never to be thought about again, but what it does mean is that you can keep the memory of the experience but let go of the emotion attached to it and forgive whomever you feel has dis-served you. Whether that is yourself or someone else – forgiveness is the key.
I tend to think that everyone is doing the best they can at their own level of consciousness, and whilst I don’t condone certain behaviours and actions, I do try to adopt a compassionate heart for all people involved in the things that have upset me. This probably sounds like hippy dippy spiritual fluff, but I am truly convinced that in order to take action and empower ourselves to live our best life, we have to forgive.
Another way you can look at it, if my hippy dippy spiritual statement doesn’t resonate with you, is to think of it this way – Everyone is doing the best they can with the tools they have in their own personal tool kit.
My lesson? Consider forgiveness as your first step towards personal empowerment.
Until next week,