I recently had a client text me and ask for an emergency coaching session about something which he said kept him up at night. Sensing the desperation in his text I arranged for us to have a call later that afternoon.
When we got on the call, I enquired what was up and he described that his wife had resigned from her job because the extensive hours and stress were making her physically sick and now, after much deliberation he had come to the conclusion that he was stuck in a rut, he hated his job and he too wanted to resign to do something more meaningful with this life. I queried what he wanted coaching on, assuming that he was seeking validation for his decision to quit his job, however, in actual fact that was not the case; he had pretty much already made up his mind on what he was going to do – what he wanted coaching on was fear.
He asked, “How do you make the fear go away so that you can do what you know you should do (i.e. quit said job)?”
My response... “The fear does not go away, you just have to get comfortable with it and sometimes you just need to take a punt”.
You see, in my experience, there is never the perfect time to make changes in your life. The stars won’t align perfectly for you to pursue your dreams – sometimes you need to rearrange the stars, take a punt and do what your gut tells you to do.
If you find yourself stuck in your career, here are some key questions you can ask yourself:
Is the ladder I am climbing leaning against the right house?
Make sure you want the career you are building. Don’t do it for the money.
Money is a Band-Aid and eventually the Band-Aid will fall off.
What actions can I take to build my dream career?
Remember, staying in a job and career you hate is akin to stagnation, which will lead to mediocrity. Even if you are not doing the career you love now, do something every day that works towards building a career you love. For instance, read about people who are doing what they love. Get inspired.
Do I have people in my life that will facilitate me with the tools and advice I need to change my current circumstances?
I recommend working with a coach (contact me if you would like a free 1-hour discovery coaching session) who can facilitate you with the tools required to make changes. Friends and family cannot help you with this – they are well meaning enablers; you need someone outside of your inner-community that will hold you accountable to discovering and implementing your dreams.
What mental monsters are preventing me from taking action?
Some examples are: fear of failure, fear of judgement, excuses, procrastination, limiting beliefs, disempowerment, perfectionism (to name but a few).
Sometimes getting out of a rut means just taking a punt…
To quote Napoleon Hill “If you can conceive it and believe it, you can achieve it”.
I checked in on my client a few days later and he had done it – he had resigned and taken a punt.
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I recognise that not everyone has the option to make career changes. Life circumstances and current responsibilities may prevent some people from making changes (at least at present time anyway), if that’s the case for you, then just remember to not limit the vision you have for yourself based on your current circumstances. Rather than taking a punt, or a big bang approach – ask yourself what small steps you can take each day to empower yourself to make changes in the future.
Need help with this? Contact me.
Until next week,